Day 12 of 21: Megan Fox, my dancing queen, and 95% success

Megan Fox (the actress) is really beautiful, said Betty (my sister). I’d traveled from the San Francisco Bay Area to visit her in Los Angeles.

To clarify, I was visiting Betty. I was not visiting Megan Fox.

Anyhow, Betty was telling me that she saw Megan Fox a while back in Larchmont Village, a small shopping area in Los Angeles. And Betty was surprised at how much better Megan Fox looked in real life compared to on camera.

Isn’t it interesting that we don’t really say that about male actors? Ah, but I digress.

If you live in L.A., you can easily see celebrities. When I was in L.A. a while back, I was at a higher end burger place, and I saw an actor who had a recurring role on the hit sitcom, “Big Bang Theory.”

I thought about saying I liked his performance, but I thought, “He’s here with his kids. He may not want to chat with a fan.” When I mentioned the actor to my sister, she said some actors don’t mind, they enjoy interacting with the public.

Yet, isn’t that the tricky thing? Celebrities don’t wear a small sign around their neck says, “I’m happy to chat,” on one side, and “Privacy please” on the other.

I view celebrities as regular people. Sure, they have a different type of job, but moving around a lot as a kid, I learned that people are people. On a deep level, we’re all the same.

When I was a student at UCLA (University of California, Los Angeles), now and then I saw celebrities. I once saw Danica McKeller, who played Winnie Cooper on the TV show, “The Wonder Years.”

But I didn’t go up to her to get an autograph or to compliment her performance. Why not? To me, she was just another college student.

Perhaps another reason I leave celebrities alone is because I project my own preference onto them. If I was a celebrity, I’d want to walk around without a ton of attention. I would prefer to eat at a restaurant in peace.

Ah, the dance of life, to know what’s appropriate to do, or not do. To read people, to project, or not project. Or protect, or reflect. We live with certainty and chance, as we dance.
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When my wife, Holly, and I took East Coast Swing lessons, we enjoyed dancing together. She wasn’t a very good dancer, but I didn’t care. To borrow a lyric from ABBA, she was my dancing queen.

Sure, I had more fun dancing with better dancers. Dancing with Holly wasn’t as much fun, I’ll admit.

But I loved dancing with Holly, because what I felt went beyond simple dancing enjoyment. Dancing with Holly made my heart sing.

Though twirling my dancing queen was less fun than twirling a highly skilled dancer, dancing with Holly filled me with more joy. And that’s better than fun.

Fast forward. We stopped dancing, and years later, I saw that Argentine Tango was offered near our home. When I lived in San Diego, I fell in love with Argentine Tango and got pretty good at it. I still love it.

Learning Argentine Tango requires much more skill than learning East Coast Swing, in my opinion. But I still asked Holly to take lessons with me. And she struggled with the steps, a lot. And she kept stepping on my feet.

From a dance perspective, we were opposites. She danced Argentine Tango to make me happy. I danced because it made me happy.

She stepped on my feet. I didn’t step on hers. Again, we were opposites.

We no longer dance Argentine Tango together. I do dream that she’ll learn to enjoy dance as much as I do. Am I being foolish to dream?

Yes, it’s true, that a couple needn’t share every hobby. They can spend time doing their own thing.

I still love to dance. But for now, I leave that love on the shelf. Perhaps that will change if I let go of that dream and focus on myself.
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No smooth and ideal transition. No inspiring words. No glorious mission. Some people spend a lot of time cooking. In the kitchen.

Back in the old days, my early smoking cessation program was mechanical and primitive. It didn’t take into account complex issues such as subconscious needs and wasn’t customized to each client. My ignorance was so great, I was ignorant that I was ignorant.

When I saw that others had a multi-session protocol, I foolishly thought, “Why multiple sessions? There’s no point in that. I can do it in one session.” Again, my ignorance was so great, I was ignorant that I was ignorant.

Much later, I bumped into a client who’d quit using my early primitive system. He said he’d been fine since that single session years ago. But he did say he’d been chewing a lot of gum. I thought, “Oh no! He’s just substituting one habit for another. This is my fault, because I didn’t know any better back then.”

Wanting to correct my error, I said, “Hey, if you’d like to get rid of the gum chewing, we can schedule a session. No charge.” He replied, “I’m good with the gum. I don’t mind it.”

In my mind, I’d just made a compelling offer. Why had he declined to finish off the old issue? I’m no mind reader, so I don’t know.

But after working with many clients, I can comment on the big question below.
– “Once a person reaches 95% success in solving an issue, what prevents them from reaching 100% success… when it’s almost handed to them?”

Here are a few of my thoughts that answer the question. The person may have an issue with…

– Deserving. If she believes she’s not worthy of happiness, she’ll avoid 100% success, at least in some life areas.
– Punishment. Her subconscious blames her for something, and it will punish her. So, it withholds solving an issue 100%.
– Distraction. Her subconscious distracts her by keeping part of the issue intact. Of course, when I find this out, I’m curious to find out why even have the distraction.
– Fear. The subconscious believes that solving the issue 100% will cause big trouble. Many types of fear exist.
– Not worth it: If the subconscious feels it’s too much work, it may not think it’s worth it. Or, even if it’s not much work, it may not feel it’s worth it.

By the way, I’ve been satisfied with 95% when I could have had 100% success in some life area. When I’m self-aware enough to recognize the pattern at play, I will have a chat (or many chats) with my subconscious about whether getting beyond 95% is worthwhile.

I suspect, every reader has been satisfied with 95% problem resolution in some life area.

If you’re aware of this 95% question, perhaps it’s worth having a friendly and respectful chat with your own subconscious mind, to find out if it’s worthwhile to go beyond 95%.

Sometimes the subconscious is just waiting to talk, if only someone would ask…

If you’re not familiar with how to speak to your subconscious in a friendly and respectful way, my wife Holly knows a hypnotist that can help you with that.
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We’ve had quite a few days in the 21 weekdays series. Question for you. There were multiple transitions in today’s post. What do you think connected the entire post? What hypnotic ideas did you notice?

2 Responses to “Day 12 of 21: Megan Fox, my dancing queen, and 95% success”

  1. Mercedes Roman says:

    First off, I loved the first two paragraphs! Funny enough for a good comedy script.

    to tell the truth, I don’t really know how the transitions tie in together.

    I really connect with the paragraph on fear.

  2. William Song says:

    Mercedes, thanks for the comedy compliment. For the transitions, if you read the transition paragraph and then the paragraph after that, and read the second transition paragraph and the remainder of the post, it may make more sense how things tie together. If after doing that it still doesn’t quite make sense, write a note that says, “Ask subconscious the meaning,” and place it at your nightstand. Then sleep on it, and let your subconscious figure it out as you sleep. When you see the note in the morning, ask your subconscious the meaning it figured out. You may be surprised at what it tells you.

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